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-What do addicted and dysfunctional families look like?

-How does growing up in an addicted and dysfunctional family contribute to the development of codependency?

-What are the similarities and differences between highly sensitive people (HSP) and codependents?

Welcome to Episode 119! This week’s guest, Natalie Friedman, LMFT, is here to enlighten us on the traits and characteristics of addicted and dysfunctional families. Natalie opens up about experiences from her own family and identifies and common signals of addiction/dysfunction. We explore the consequences of growing up in families with addiction and how it often manifests in codependent relationships. We conclude with hearing Natalie’s initial steps she takes with her therapy patients to help them become aware of a) the fact that they have feelings and b) how to feel their feelings. It’s a must-listen!

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Natalie Friedman is a licensed marriage family therapist in private practice in Santa Monica CA. She has been in practice for about 10 years and is currently seeing people online and in person (prefers in person). Natalie loves working with highly sensitive folks who grew up in addicted/dysfunctional families.

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We begin with hearing Natalie’s definition of codependency. She describes how she relates codependency with recovery, Al-Anon, and the field of addiction. “Codependency is a set of behaviors we learn in systems to stay connected.” She emphasizes how codependency often starts in childhood with good intentions and then turns into less adaptive behaviors as adults.

I love Natalie’s language, don’t you! In intimate relationships: “we get a beautiful view of all these strategies.” “It was like I was body-snatched.” “I dated people who were highly unavailable.” Love it!

Natalie recalls a codependent relationship from her early 20s and how her attempts to control him led to his observation: “It feels like you’re mothering me.”

We shift to Natalie’s specialties with highly sensitive people (HSP) who often grew up in addicted/dysfunctional families where there was chaos. As a consequence, children in these households often are hypervigilent and sensitive to stimuli–emotional, relational, physical, etc. Common traits include observing, mind-reading, caretaking, sensitivity to the needs of others, and not allowing our own needs.

And what happens to this children? Natalie compares resourceful versus unresourceful children. Those who are resourceful end up as “giving” adults, experience relational anxiety, are attuned to others, read moods, become physically ill, dissociate, and are great personal assistants!

We wrap up with hearing how Natalie helps her patients recognize that a) they have feelings and b) how to feel their feelings. She suggests rewiring by reading, having a conversation about their feelings (like in therapy), being curious, somatically listening to their bodies, etc. She reads an excerpt from Melody Beattie’s book, The Language of Letting Go, from the day we recorded. If you’re interested in hearing more about her speciality, Inner-Relationship Focusing, be sure to reach out!

Thanks for coming on Natalie! And thank you for being here, dear listener!

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