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How do hysterical reactions in the present demonstrate historical feelings from the past?

Instead of thinking we are “crazy” for having feelings, how can we view our feelings with tenderness?

What do we do to feel through our unresolved feelings from our past?

In this week’s episode, another Codependummy Confession deep-dive: hysterical reactions indicate historical feelings. I want to look into and share about an experience on this in hopes that you stop thinking you are crazy, dramatic, pathetic, or stupid when it comes to strong emotional reactions over seemingly slight provocations. mmmkay? If it’s hysterical, it’s historical. You think you’re being all weird and emotional and shit but no: it makes total sense, it’s completely understandable, and there is a way to respond to your feelings with tenderness rather than self-denial so you don’t keep “overreacting.”

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How do hysterical reactions in the present demonstrate historical feelings from the past?

Hysterical: deriving from or affected by uncontrolled extreme emotion.

Historical: belonging to the past, not the present.

If you find yourself having an uncontrolled extreme emotion–I would argue that, 9 times out of 10, the feelings, the emotions, the sentiments that you are currently experiencing belong to the past and not the present.

Context: I share a memory of when I had a hysterical reaction to a crush being imperfect. I was sooo disappointed. Why? WTF happened? He missed class, that’s what!

He missed class and I proceeded to have an uncontrolled and extreme emotional response.

Feelings: Anxious: Dread. Disappointed. Disillusioned. Defeated. And thought I was a crazy person.

But I wasn’t. Why? If it’s hysterical, it’s historical.

How can you apply this and show tenderness towards your feelings?

-start with the situation

-identify the emotions

-to find out how it’s historical, ask yourself – when have I been in a situation and felt similarly to this before?

-pinpoint what’s a tender response? Gentleness, kindness, sensitivity to pain

-TELL YOURSELF how you’re feeling and then feel the feelings!

-allow our feelings to pass through me, accept them, release them, then know what to do next.

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